The Question

Do you know what I’ve found to be the most annoying question as a mom? It’s not, “How’s baby doing?” or “Is she sleeping well?”, it wasn’t even “How’s your pregnancy going?” when I was pregnant. The question I cannot stand is…“Is baby #2 on the way?”

UGG! That question is the question that drives me up the wall.

To answer that question, no. Baby #2 is not on the way, but regardless of the answer, why is it your business to know when I'm ready for the next baby? What if we’re pregnant and not ready to tell people yet? What if we were trying and were having trouble getting pregnant? What if I’m happy with my family the way it is right now?

When we told people we were buying a new house it wasn’t something I anticipated people asking about, but it started almost immediately. I didn’t really mind it at first, but the more and more people asked the more annoying it became. Most of the time it felt like it wasn’t even a question, it was more of an assumption that baby #2 was on the way.

It seems like a lot of people I know who were pregnant around the same time as me are already moving on to baby #2 or #3 or #4, and that’s awesome for them, but I still have a baby, I’m not ready for another one. I’m not ready to be pregnant again. I’m not ready to go through all the firsts again quite yet. I’m not ready to have two kids in diapers. I’m not ready to get a nursery ready. I’m not ready to breastfeed. I’m not ready to turn my attention to a new baby. I love Claire and want to spend as much time with her, watching her grow and discover new things, and give her the one-on-one time she needs.

So please stop asking. I’m sure whenever baby #2 does come around I won’t believe how I could have wanted to put it off, how I never imagined my heart could hold so much love for two kids, but right now…I’m not quite ready for baby #2.